There are four factors to healing from lies we believe about ourselves. This article is a follow-up to the post I wrote earlier this week regarding why believing lies about yourself is dangerous. You can find that article here.
Of course, the first step is realizing you have believed a lie. This is sometimes not as easy as we may think. We believe so many lies about ourselves. We believe we’re hopeless or that we can never change. We convince ourselves that things will never change, that nothing we do matters. Others tells us that we don’t deserve love or goodness or justice or dignity or a million other things. We easily become trapped by the lies we tell ourselves and the lies that others tell us.
Once we recognize that we have believed and lived from a falsehood we can take steps to heal from these lies.
Healing Factor One: Recall memories that identify when a lie was first spoken.
As I stated in my last post, we can’t be free from a toxic lie until we identify the beginning. We can’t truly heal till we know why it’s there in the first place. It can be a very painful process when we start to rummage around in memories we have repressed.
There are several therapies designed to help one recall a memory that has been forgotten. One in particular that I have had a positive experience with is SOZO. Although SOZO is not an official therapy backed by the American Psychological Association, is it one that the Church uses successfully. It has also been called Inner Healing Ministry.
SOZO is the Greek word translated “saved, healed, delivered.” SOZO therapy is designed as a unique inner healing and deliverance ministry aimed to get to the root of things hindering personal connection with God. With a healed connection, you can walk in the destiny to which you have been called. For many the process uncovers repressed memories.
SOZO is not a counseling session but a time of interacting with Father, Son and Holy Spirit for wholeness. You can find out more about SOZO and Inner Healing Ministry here.
Healing Factor Two: Analyze and allow yourself to feel the emotions associated with the lie.
With every memory there is one or more emotions tied to it. The same goes with lies. Your emotions don’t lie, they merely indicate what it is that your heart really believes. Emotions can control your thinking, behavior and actions. Emotions affect your physical body as much as your body affects your feelings and thinking.
Many people talk and talk about their feelings but they don’t feel their feelings. They intellectualize and analyze their feelings without feeling them. Many are afraid to really feel their feelings, afraid of losing control, afraid of the pain involved in feeling their emotions, of feeling the sense of loss or failure or whatever the emotion brings with it.
I wrote a more in depth post a couple weeks ago about healing from emotional hurts, which you can read here. Don’t be afraid of your emotions. They can help guide you in rooting out lies and healing from them. Healing our emotions begin with allowing ourselves to feel them fully. There is no shame in being full of emotion.
Healing Factor Three: Determine other lies you believe that perpetuate painful experience.
When we identify and uproot one lie there are bound to be others attached that continue to perpetuate pain.
There are seven common lies that most people believe about themselves at one time or another in their lives:
- I can’t feel valuable unless I am loved and accepted by the significant people in my life.
- I can never feel valuable because this is just the way I am. I can not change.
- I can’t feel value unless I live in the right neighborhood, drive the right car or wear the right clothing.
- My life has no value since I have done so many wrong things — my life is ruined.
- I only have value if I look like I have it all together and look good to others.
- My life has no value because I have failed and deserve punishment.
- My life has no value because I have not succeeded financially and do not lead a comfortable life.
Many of these are connected and all of them boil down to one main falsehood; a misunderstanding of personal value found in our true identity in Christ. Believing these lies are what perpetuates more and more painful experiences.
Healing Factor Four: Establish and root yourself in truth of who you are to replace the lie.
Walking in victory means constantly reminding ourselves of our true identity. It’s our Savior and not our sins that characterizes us and replaces lies with truth.
“Do not conform any longer to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” – Romans 12:2
You have value because of who created you. You are unconditionally loved and accepted by God. You have value because God changed you from the inside and given you a new nature, His nature. You have a new residence in God’s kingdom and the new clothing of Christ. You have been given a new life in Christ. The old is gone. You may make mistakes and fall in this world, but not in God’s eyes. You have been been given a new image. Your past performance is not held against you, nor does it lift you. You are free from all condemnation. You have been given a new inheritance that provides the only true and lasting significance and security possible.
For every lie you identify replace it with the truth. Below are 32 truths of who God says you are.
Abide in these truths. Remind yourself and others of these truths often. For the truth is what sets us free from the toxic lies that try to overtake us daily.
Questions to Ask Yourself:
Am I aware of lies that I am believing about myself? What are they?
Have I gotten tot he root of a lie I have believed about myself? If I have how has my belief changed?
What lies for the list of 7 common lies do I mistakenly believe, even if it is a slight belief, about myself?
What truths do I need to be reminded of often? Do I have the support needed to help remind me of these truths?